In his paper, “Who is the Boss? Power Relationships in Families”, Richard B. Miller shared about the dynamics of power struggles and the influence these power struggles have on families. This article was definitely for me this week. I was humbled to see the effects of power relationships. I feel that I have some work to do in order to cut out some of these harmful practices. It is interesting to see things from a different perspective. Often you do not see your own faults until it is too late or until it is presented in just the right light to set off a guided thought process. I approached my wife about power relationships and was reminded of certain actions that are a part of my daily schedule. This sent me reeling and thinking of what I need to do in order to correct some of my behavior. I pray and hope that I can focus on these things in order to make some changes for the betterment of my relationship with my spouse and with my children.
In Elder Ballard’s book, “Counseling With Your Councils” he talked about the importance of councils and most of all the importance of listening. I felt the impression of listening with an open mind and not trying to force your opinion or will upon those whom you are counseling. I often get so excited about something and try to convince everyone around me of how grand the idea will be. I need to stop this and take into consideration everyone else’s mindset of the situation. It was great to hear of how in a true council there is no pushing ones agenda on others and that it can all be resolved by asking for higher help and seeking guidance of the Holy Ghost.
President Henry B. Eyring gave a conference address in April of 1998 that emphasized the importance of being one with our Heavenly Father. When we are one with the Father, we can be better stewards of our responsibility as a spouse and a parent. The Holy Ghost is a sanctifier that can help us become one with our spouse. Unified marriages are strong and teach children the correct way to work as a team with the blessings of heaven close to hand an in sight. “It is our surrender to the Lord Jesus Christ that allows us to be bound as families” (Eyring, That We May Be One, 1998 April). In serving one another we can be true disciple of Jesus Christ and our Father. This will help us be happier and keep the focus on what is truly important in this life.
Love and Marriage 